Why Can't I Have My Cake-- & Eat It Too

Dear Bloggers,,

A lot of friends always tell me,, your to picky you need to lower your standards if you ever want a guy-- "Umm excuse me??".. I know a lot of people who are dating people they were never attracted to and now over time they have just started to grow on them-- or they broke up. I ask them why date someone you aren't attracted to?? Their response is always the same 1. We are best friends it has to work . And 2. Since he isn't that attractive, he'll always treat me like a princess and does everything I want him too-- now I know some of you are starting to say the famous saying "looks don't matter". But I don't know how exactly true that statement is,, people only make that statement because they KNOW they aren't attracted to their significant other. Most people constantly brag about their amazing boyfriend. But what about those other girls who aren't attractive to them but since they treated them like a queen and they were best friends they started dating.. Now I know there are those few people who hated and thought each other were ugly and ended up being together for 50years-- but what about the other percentage. Should I lower my standards because he doesn't meet a couple checks on my list. Now there are those people who have a list that is three pages long but what about those people who only have three things on the list. Should they "lower their standards" because they are lonely and don't have what everyone else has-- "honey the grass isn't greener on the other side". I don't have all the answers but I truly believe that there is one person out there that is right for you. And if you lower your standards you'll end up with a guy you never wanted,, instead of the guy who was meant for you. Every night for the rest of your life as you lay next to him a small voice in the back of your head will wonder and dream of "what if.." So when my friends say lower your standards i ignore them because in the end lets see who lasts and who fails-- the couple that are madly in love and are physically attracted to each other, who always glow when they talk about one another,, or that couple where she lowered her standards to someone who one day MIGHT be fond of, and spend the rest of her life dreaming.. It's not about lowering your standards it's about getting what you actually deserve-- HAPPINESS.

The Person--Behind The Smile

Dear Bloggers,,


Theres this girl and every time i see her i wave and she smiles back, everyday, every time, without fail. What does her smile mean?? Is she really as happy as she appears. She is the kind of girl who always asks others how their day was,, she is the person you could confide to and someone who you could share your deepest secrets without judgement. Behind her back people always say how they want to be like her.. "she never has a bad day".."if i ever saw her cry i would cry too". People only saw the mask that she wanted people to see.. behind closed doors she was different. She never smiled she never laughed,, she never lived her life she only existed.. thoughts danced in her head..objects brushed against her wrists. If only someone truly knew her,, if they only knew the truth. Every morning as she sat at her desk she would do the same routine she did every morning. Pull out her makeup bag and begin to paint a portrait that everyone would approve of,, FIRST she would put her concealer under her eyes,, bags that she got because she couldn't sleep at night, thinking about the problems people shared with her. SECOND she would put her foundation on to cover up all her pimples which were caused by the deadly smoke she inhaled just to get high every night to pass the time that she spent alone,, thinking. THIRD was her mascara,, to cover up her swollen eyes from crying about her parents fighting last night. FOURTH she pulls out that bright blue nail polish to paint her nails to cover up the discoloration on her fingers that she got by forcing herself to throw up last night's meal. LASTLY,, she puts her lipstick on to paint a smile that will greet everyone as she walks past them. Do you know the person behind the smile.. have you ever stopped to ask how they were doing? Don't be tricked by their smile because like makeup it just covers up."Each day in our nation there are an average of over 5,400 attempts by young people grades 7-12". "Four out of Five teens who attempt suicide have given clear warning signs".

http://jasonfoundation.com/prp/facts/youth-suicide-statistics/

I Don't Post On Social Media So Many People Will Like It-- I Post So That The Jealous People Don't

Dear Bloggers,,

     

So your in bed and can't fall asleep, what to do so you scroll down Instagram-- who the heck does she think she is! You shout in your head as your eyes lay upon the picture.. The annoying girl you see all the time in school, there she is at a party with all the hot guys in school and she looks like she is having so much fun-- then as you calm your thoughts you look down to see how many people liked her photo.. just as you thought 145likes-- as the madness turns to sadness you go to your profile and see how many likes your last photo had..12likes,, now every time you post you makes sure that your photo has more than 20 likes if not you delete it..So i ask the question why do you post on social media? is it because you like to see how many likes you get on a picture.. or is it because you don't have a life but like to appear to others like you do? When talking to people most people will look many times to verify that they had over ten likes on their photo or status update.. thats RIDICULOUS isn't it! Well I'm here to tell you why i post things on social media and it isn't the reasons that i stated early, its because i don't care about who likes the photo but i care about the jealous people who don't like it. they stare at my photo in hatred, thats the real reason i post. HATERS ARE ALWAYS GOING TO HATE.. but its the haters that make people more successful they push people farther than they ever thought they could ever go. So when people say i don't care what others say about my social media i do it for myself, BULLSHIT you do care and you know it, i do it for the haters they say. But myself, I love jealous people because it reminds me that my life is pretty special. Everyday i find my self complaining about multiple things that i don't like about my life..well if my life is special enough to have someone jealous of it than i have a pretty good life. Posting reminds me of the blessings i have in my life that i am able to do the things i do and have the friends i can do them with. It is very important to remember why you do the things you do then just doing them for no reason.  

Fake Friends Are Like Fake Diamonds--No One Wants Them But Everyone Has Them

Tanaya Rachele

 Dear Bloggers,,
    
   Have you ever had a friend who you thought was your best friend? Someone you could confide into, cry in the arms of, and be your rock when you thought you couldn't be your own-- And then one day you wake up and realize that they were just as fake as your 1karat diamond earrings.. the horror.. well I'm here to tell you that this happens to EVERYONE. There is not one person on this planet that has never been so blind sided by this tragedy.--Now fast forward and your laying in bed with ice cream crying over a friend like it was your lover or something..SNAP OUT OF IT! Getting fat over a fake friend is dumb! Fake people are irrelevant.. not only are they a waste of time and space they are also a waste of your breath. Now i know at this point your agreeing with me and turning down the sad music and putting away the ice cream..But the next part of this whole rant is the most important part. DONT BE A BITCH BACK--WHAT!, Are you out of your mind she was rude and treated me bad and she deserves everything I'm about to give her--PAUSE! 1 out of every 3 person that i have talked to in my life has told me that the most irritating thing they have every experienced was niceness from a person they hated. -- So back to what i was saying don't be a bitch be a lady.. Now being a lady doesn't mean being a punk it means being able to "float like a butterfly, and sing like a bee". Next time you see that individual smile and wave but don't engage in conversation. Make new ACQUAINTANCES, laugh and have a great time! Not only are you pissing that individual off you also are making new friends and realizing that you never needed that person to begin with,, you just needed to know that you had yourself.Because its better to have 10 acquaintances than it is to have 1 fake best friend.--I have this friend and every time she takes out her fake earrings she always complains about her ear staining and how gross and unappealing it is. --Well next time you are in a store and you see two diamonds one real and one fake.. think about this would you rather pay more for something that will last longer and never hurt you, or something fake thats cheaper but leaves a permanent stain!